Birth Day ~ Announcing: Declan McCoy Milton

August 6, 2009

It's 6:00am and we are about to check into Labor and Delivery for the induction.

Getting settled into the delivery room, they were taking all of my information and getting me prepped.


Supportive Dad, Luder has been amazing. He has been there for me in every way imaginable.

Things were starting to get rough. The baby's heartbeat would slow with contractions and the pain was mounting. I got an epidural and waited. The labor was roughly two hours long. It was the quickest and easiest delivery yet. I couldn't believe it. Right before he was delivered, people started moving quickly to get into position. It helped that I had warned them all that I thought things would go fast.

One of the best moments of my life, captured here on film. I was so relieved when he was born and we were both healthy and together at last. He was born at 12:12pm.



After I recovered for a while, Grammoma, Gramps and Aunt Dale brought the boys to the hospital to meet their new brother. I cannot adequately describe the excitement that they had been feeling for months. It increased as we got close to the exciting day. Cason picked out special matching shirts that they both got from their Aunt Anita that say, "Big Brothers Rock." They had cards for me and presents for Declan. Luder had gotten them special presents from Declan and wrapped them up. It was a moment I will never forget.

Big Brother Cason. He was so happy.

Proud Grandparents, Luder's parents. Grammoma and Gramps.

Grammoma and Aunt Dale. Dale came all the way from Charleston to be with us and help us out. Thanks Aunt Dale!




Proud Grandparents, my parents, Grammy and Bop.

Uncle Scott holding Declan. I can't believe Scott will be leaving next week for his mission for two years!

Heading out of the hospital to take our baby home.

Cason got Declan a small little bear that he put into his crib months ago and it has been waiting on him since. When Declan came home, Cas gave him the bear and he actually held it tight several times.

Reflections of a Pregnant Woman

So, I went to the doctor yesterday. The babe is preparing to make an exit as my body is starting to show signs that he and I are gradually getting ready. I have two more weeks until he comes. I am trying to sleep, eat and get as ready as much as possible for him in the meantime. The boys are so excited, they can hardly wait. They are taking a sibling class on Saturday. I am interested to see how that turns out.
As the time draws near, I can't help but think about how my life will change. I think about how it has changed with every person that we have added to this little family. I think about the work that is involved in raising a child but more than that, I think of the great blessing it is to have this little baby boy come to me. I am so grateful to be a mother, although it can be difficult at times, there is nothing I would rather do than take care of these sweet boys.
For some reason birth always makes me reflect on life. Thinking of life makes me reflect on my family, what is important and the people I love. It makes me think of those who are around but also those who aren't. This child is my first child that I will not be able to take to see his Nan (my grandmother). I have thought of her so much lately. I believe that we come from a loving home with God when we are born and we return to the same place when we die. I can't help but wonder if this little man that is about to come to us has been with his great-grandparents and loved ones that have passed on.
Life is something that happens so quickly to us. What perspective do we have? I am thinking a lot about birth, life and even death at this point. It is one eternal round.

Temple Time

One of my favorite places on earth is the Washington D.C. Temple. Luder and I were married there and lots more special memories have taken place at this gorgeous site. The temple is special because we believe that it is Heavenly Father's house here on earth. We believe that the ceremonies that take place inside these sacred walls last through this life and through eternity.





Scott went through the temple for the first time in June and it was such a special day for our family. I am so glad that I was a part of it and that he has decided that the temple is important.



A few weeks ago, Mom, Scott and I got to go to the temple together for some special family work. It was one of the best days ever in the temple for me. I am so grateful to have this glorious place.

Girl's Beach Trip

I randomly made Carol go on this with me. I forget what it is called but someone rides a bikes while pulling you through the park. It was fun.

Carol, this picture is for you. Ask her about it.

When we can, Carol and I head to the beach for a short trip. We have decided that the only bad thing about our trip is that it is too short. So, husbands prepare yourselves for a longer version in the future.
We sat on the beach, with no one bothering us. Well, maybe with the exception of the lifeguard training that we thought were real people drowning at first. After we got over that heart attack and realized that it was just a training, we relaxed and enjoyed the beach. We talked our heads off on the balcony, ate dinner outside, shopped until we dropped and fell asleep looking at gossip magazines. What more could we want?
We also got some cat calls, which I thought was interesting and funny since I was 8 mons pregnant. I think Carol was embarrassed! Can't wait to go back!

Congratulations Luder

This is one fine looking young man. Luder was nominated and named a "Rising Star" in the Super Lawyers Magazine.

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Congratulations on a huge accomplishment!
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8 Months

I can't believe that I am 8 months pregnant. Time is definitely flying. Each pregnancy seems to go faster. The nursery is coming along. I still need to put the final touches on it. It seems like I have to do this project on the side because of all the other things (good things) going on in our family.
I went to the OB and the baby is growing and healthy. Until this point I have been pretty calm, I am noticing a little anxiety start to creep in. I think that I am worried because I am not worried. It's almost as if I am afraid of being blindsided somehow. Today I washed the baby's clothes and put them into the drawers. It made things so real. Everyday we do something to prepare for the baby.
Left to do:
put up swing and bouncy seats
decorate the walls of the nursery
wash the bedding and put it up
register at Babies R Us and Target
and whatever else.....
The boys are so excited. They got a "new" room last week. We put Cason and Abram in the same room with bunk beds. Abram calls them "punk" beds. They jumped up and down and screamed happily at the sight of their new beds. They love to be together. Initially I didn't want to put them together but after Luder and I saw that they had been sharing a room while traveling for 3 weeks and they were great, we decided to give it a try. So far, so good. I am still waiting for the storm. They have three big adjustments this summer; a room change, kindergarten and a new baby. We spread out the events so they will come gradually. Wish us luck.

Milton Family Tradition 2009

We have started a tradition of going to the beach on Memorial Day week every summer. We have enjoyed it so much. The boys talk about it all year. They spend their days in the wading pools, catching hermit crabs and minnows. This year we had Grandma Mary with us (my Grandmother) my Dad's little sister-Leslie, her three boys, my Great Aunt Pat and Uncle Bud and my Aunt Janet and Uncle Dickie and of course my parents and brother. I think we all had a great time. We spent the days on the beach, we ate dinner together and had a fire in the evenings. We visited and laughed all week. It was great. Luder and I were able to have a lot of good conversations and it was one of the best vacations I have had with my little family.

Scott, Justin, Ethan and Ashton.

Men at work.

Look at that hottie.


Our little growing family. Me at 7.5 months pregnant.

I get this look a lot.

This is a kid that threw up a couple of hours before. He is a trooper.

Uncle Scott took them on a walk. He is a great Uncle. Scott just got his mission call to California Riverside Mission where he will be a full time missionary for our church (The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints) for two years. I am proud of him!

Cason

Cason graduated from preschool in May. I can't believe that the baby I held in my arms a few years ago will be in kindergarten this year. I have heard about the mixed emotions and I always thought that I would be different. I am not, I am sad to let him go. The days of having him with me everyday to be at home, help me run errands and be carefree are gone. Once I pushed past the sadness which is only selfishness on my part, I am happy and excited for him to spread his wings and fly. I can't promise that I won't cry on that first day, especially since I will have just given birth and my emotions will be spilling over.
Kindergarten seems like the first step that leads to a path that goes away from me. I know that it won't be long until we have to have talks about bullies, mean teachers, rules and later those life lessons that dictate a perspective for a lifetime.

Lake Anna

So, Luder and I decided to take the boys back to "the beach" right after we got home from Florida. We went to Lake Anna. They have a beach at the state park. We had a great time and it brought back so many memories for me. My parents took me there for many summers as a child. We had a boat and would water ski, picnic and fish with our extended family. Some of my favorite childhood memories were made on the lake.
The weather was perfect. Good idea Luder!

Two weeks in Paradise

My Mom, my brother Scott, Cason, Abram and I all went on a great vacation recently. We went on a seven day cruise to the Eastern Carribean and to Disney for about three days on the way home. We drove to Florida and we were able to visit with my Dad's brother, sister and Mom on the trip. The boys were really well behaved and I was pleasantly surprised at how smoothly the trip went with the boys.
On Sunday April 12, we boarded the ship. The boys were excited and couldn't believe the size of the ship. They had a set sail party on the deck where we sat by the pool with music and food and watched Florida dissappear.




If you know the Pat and Frederick Milton family well, you know that they have passed a genetic addiction to ice cream to their children. The gene has been passed to my children. They had a 24/7 free ice cream bar that my boys rank up there with being one of the best things about taking a cruise.

The First Stop: Grand Turks and Caicos Islands, BWI






We literally walked off the ship to a paradise tropical beach with free lawn chairs and all the fun you could want. We had a little issue, Cason had gotten croup as we were leaving the States. He had a flare up on the beach. Scott and I were even worried, it goes without saying for Grammy. Scott was the hero that whisked Cason away to the ship and got him the breathing treatment he needed in almost no time.

Next Stop: San Juan, Puerto Rico

Mom rented a day room at a sweet resort so that we could have a place to go when we docked. There was a beach, an awesome pool with a swim up bar and food. The highlight of the boys' day was a water slide that Uncle Scott helped them enjoy. I wasn't sure who was having more fun.









I had to archive this part of the trip because we spent some of the trip dealing with Cason's croup. He got better though and is back to normal.

Next Stop: Phillipsburg, St. Maarten

We took a water taxi to the beach. Abram's sunglasses broke so he had to wear my spare pair.



This was the beach where we landed and played for a few hours. It was beautiful.

There was another stop in the Bahamas. Lots of sun, fun and food at sea. They had a children's program that was wonderful. I could drop the kids off to learn about what pirates do and go eat sushi and rest in the sun. Pretty good for a pregnant lady.

Last Stop: Fort Lauderdale, Florida
We woke up to breakfast being delivered to our room. I let the boys eat on our deck and watch the boats and airplanes go by. Abram is pointing out the boat passing by with his piece of sausage. It was a great trip and I am so grateful we were able to go.


More pics later. My camera died just in time for Disney. I have to get them from Mom and Scott.

Lacking

So, I haven't posted anything in a while. It seems like March has been so busy. The fact that I can barely keep up with myself and that I am pregnant combine to drain any motivation and aspiration for creativity. I will get back to it soon.
We are getting excited and ready to go on a two week vacation. I am really nervous and excited at the same time. We are driving to Florida, taking a cruise and then hitting Disney on the way home. All of this is happening without Luder's help. He has to work. My mom and brother are going with me. It should be a lot of fun and stress all combined. I hope the boys will be good. We had to get them passports and all kinds of documentation saying that Luder was ok with me taking them out of the country and that I am healthy to travel pregnant. Pray for all of us. Have you ever seen those National Lampoon movies? I have a feeling.....
The pregnancy is going well. The little man is getting bigger and he seems to be pretty calm compared to the other boys. Maybe he just isn't big enough yet to make me as miserable, I don't know. It is getting difficult to reach my feet. Luder finds this amusing but he helps me with my shoes so I can't get too mad at him. I am not huge (yet) and I have found that because I do not look big and pregnant, this is a disadvantage. I do not get the sympathy that a pregnant woman in month 5 deserves. I am sure this is good for me in some way, I just haven't decided if I am happy about it. Of course I am happy that I am not huge yet.
The boys are so excited about the baby, they can barely stand it. Abram still asks occasionally when we are running errands if we can go by and "pick the baby up now?" Cason asked the other day, "Mom, can you show me exactly where that baby is going to come out?" YIKES. I was not ready for that! I almost choked, laughed and tried to answer his questions.

It's A ............

Boy! We are having a boy in August! Luder and I are happy. The boys are so excited that Cason did the happy dance as they screamed and clapped together while sporting some huge grins. I just sat there smiling. I knew it was a boy. Luder was ready to hear it was a girl (really wanting it to be a boy). It was an exciting day for our family. I felt overwhelmed and exhausted, so many emotions. The pregnancy is going well. The baby is super healthy. We got a really good profile shot and he looks just like his brothers! I can't believe I will be the mother of three boys. If this little boy is anything like his big brother's, I cannot wait to meet him. I wouldn't take any frilly girl for my beautiful, sweet and smart little boys! I am so blessed!

Update

All is well with the Milton's. I had another OB appointment yesterday where I heard the baby's heart for the second time. It is a great sound. The nurse couldn't find it for a while (it seemed like a long time) she was trying to make small talk with me. It reminded me of when you get your blood taken and they are asking you questions to distract you. Well, I just stopped listening to her and talking to her. I was about to jump on that button that I keep buried that says, "PANIC AND CRY NOW." Just before making the decision to stomp on that I heard the sweet sound of my baby. I was relieved. It was a healthy 150 bts/min.
I taught a parenting class last night for the women at the church. It went well I think. I enjoyed it. It made me realize how much I miss that part of my life. I was told to expect 5-10 because it was a mini enrichment and over 20 people showed up. The best feeling was to see the hope in their eyes that they could do their calling as a Mother better.
Luder has been working a lot but we are so grateful to have a job. A great job. Thank you Heavenly Father. We are so blessed. He is being recognized in an official way for his great efforts in his career. I am so proud of him. More to come on that later.
Last week was filled with Valentine's, to the point of almost coming out of my ears. Two preschool V-Day parties, baking, making Valentine's for school and Grandparents. At one point Luder and I looked at eachother like, "What is this madness they call Valentine's Day? AHHH!" Saturday night we grilled steaks and had a quiet night at home. Then we watched a movie that Luder said was a "total buz kill." Whatever that means. He cracks me up. I love him.
Being pregnant is such a roller coaster of emotions. I seriously laugh until I cry fairly frequently. I feel overwhelmed more easily. It is amazing to me this change that happens. This has been the best pregnancy so far though. Pregnancy has never been "easy" for me but I am so much more relaxed, more peaceful and calm this time.
We wish all of you well. Please keep in touch and if it's not going to snow for real, bring on SPRING!

Good Day

It started out rough with a winter storm but I ended up having a good day. I went to the OB today for a check up. The baby's heartbeat was "strong and healthy" the nurse said. It was such a sweet sound to hear my baby for the first time. I am relieved and grateful. It is becoming more real.

News

We are having a baby in August! The official due date is August 10th. We are excited and nervous. The boys are so excited. Abram keeps asking me if we can go get the baby now. Cason keeps asking if it is ok to tell more and more people. He told his primary class, his preschool class (for both of those I got directly contacted by the teacher, to validate his story) and he has told lots of others. They are going to be great big brothers. I go in for another appointment on Tuesday. This time I will meet the doctor and they will make sure all is going well. I have already had an ultrasound where I saw (didn't hear yet) the baby's heart beating and saw him/her for the first time.
I am assumming that this baby is a boy for the sake of simplicity. Why wouldn't it be? I will be happy with either. Luder has been working a lot lately. I have had lots of nasea and back pain. I have stayed home and just resigned myself to the fact that life isn't always what you plan, so be happy anyway.
I am grateful for this new person that will change me in more ways that I can imagine, just as Cason and Abram have. Those of you who we love, thanks for your support and your prayers. We will take all we can get.

Funny Luder's

So, two funny things have happened to me recently that I would like to share. Luder "Abram" informed me yesterday on the way to the grocery store that he is sick of going to the grocery store. Wow, funny from a three year old. Conversation is as follows:
Abram: Where are we going, Mommy?
Me: To the grocery store.
Abram: I am sick if I go to the grocery store.
Me: What?
Abram: I am sick if I go to the grocery store.
(He kind of mumbled the middle part bc he was trying to say something new he really didn't know how to say).
Me: You are sick of going to the grocery store?
Abram: Yeah!
Me: Me too.

So, the other one has been a consistantly funny episode in my life for 8 yrs. Before Luder and I got married, I decided he needed a nice alarm clock, so I got the big numbers one that has the radio and the two settings (so I would have a setting after we were married etc.) and I was really happy with it. The big numbers were for pre- lasik Ginny time period. It has a weatherband feature (which we still don't understand) and all kinds of things. Luder informed me that he didn't want the alarm near his bed, I thought this was foolish (I didn't want him to wake me up) so I said, leave it beside the bed. I remember the first couple of times I noticed things weren't working out as planned when he would not hear the alarm going off. I hear it and wake him. Then, he (and Luder is very smart) could NEVER IN YEARS get the alarm set to anything but static. So, for a long time I have been waking up to static, trying to reset it for the poor boy during the day and somehow it goes back to torturing me again with the static (because he doesn't hear it like I said). If he does happen to hear the alarm, he either 1. hits the snooze button several times or 2. turns it off and promply goes back to bed, remembering none of this later. I have laughed about this for years. Then today took the cake. I wake up to him standing beside the bed hitting it and talking to it and ( in really mad tones) turning it off and on. I woke up and said, "Uhh, Luder, chill out, it's ok." He kind of woke up and started laughing at himself. Literally, typing this makes me laugh so hard I cry. Poor guy. Needless to say, he is still one of the first ones to work everyday. Whatever works...or doesn't.
**The attorney's wife has privilage to this information and it can be shared with those person's she sees fit in a biased manner.

Merry Christmas

Dear Family and Friends,
This year has been a great one for our family. We have so much to be grateful for. We were able to go to the beach as a family, take a trip to Charleston, SC, Lake Gaston and visit lots of family. I was able to go to NYC with my Grandmother and Aunt. We were busy! Most of it is posted here.
As for what we are up to, Mr. Milton is still working for a great firm downtown called Hirschler Fleischer. He enjoys it there and I am happy that he likes his job. He is involved in the BYU Management Society here in Richmond. He is working with a few others to get it started and Luder's firm is hosting an event next month that I think will be great. He is still the Young Men's President at church. He loves those guys and is very concerned about their future. He is also a great husband and father. Did I mention how attractive he is? (hubba hubba)(He wrote that and it is true).
Ginny is still taking care of everyone. Life consists of finding the outstanding moments in the most mundane things. If you don't know what I mean, hang out with Cason and Abram, they make you laugh and smile constantly (and sometimes want to pull your hair out.) She teaches the 6 yr old Sunday School class at church. She also holds a Girl's Night Out once a month with friends, mostly from church. She has a passion for health and wellness so she spends time on her personal health through exercise and helps others with theirs, through Juice Plus.
Cason is five years old now. He is interested in anything pretend. He likes to ride his bike and he is a great big brother. He can write and read small words. He loves books. He had a primary program this year, in which he memorized his few lines very quickly and delivered them to the congregation at church very clearly. We are proud of him. He is sensitive and funny.
Abram is now three years old. Time flies. Someone said it best when they said, "He is a full spirit in a little body." Abram has personality to spare! He is a quick leaner, he likes to do whatever Cason does. He started preschool this year and has been LOVING it. He was potty trained before he started and has been really successful with that. He makes us laugh constantly. He is a determined little soul, we have learned a lot of patience through him.
Life is full of ups and downs. When I am tempted to complain I think of all the wonderful blessings we have been given: Family, Jesus Christ and His beautiful gospel, the best country ever-the U.S.A. and our health. I hope that we can all take a moment to think of things we are grateful for and what we can do to be better. We love and miss all of you who we will not see this Christmas time.
Merry Christmas!

Love,
Mr. Milton, Ginny, Cason and Abram

Happy Birthday Aunt Dale!

Spellbound

Luder took Abram to his office to get something one Saturday. He loved looking out Luder's office window at the train and the river. Abram is a big fan of "Blue's Clue's" and has been pretending to be Steve. He pretends Cason is Joe. When they were in the office and one of Luder's colleague's says hello to Abram and asks him his name, Abram replies, "Steve." Luder had to tell the guy that we didn't name our child Steve. So funny.